Thursday, April 29, 2010

Guest Blogger: Pediatrician Claudia Gold

I recently came across a great new blog by pediatrician Dr. Claudia Gold. She is a pediatrician in private practice and has started the blog called "Child in Mind." The goal of the blog is to help parents, teachers, and others better understand the interplay of factors that may influence a child's behavior (including child development, neuroscience, and behavioral genetics). By better understanding these factors and learning to see the world through the child's eyes, parents have a better chance of understanding a child's behavior and helping the child to learn to manage his/her own emotions. Dr. Gold recently posted a very interesting article discussing a study that examines the interplay of family dynamics and genetics in the development of ADHD. I found this article very thought-provoking and she kindly gave me permission to re-post it here. I think you'll appreciate how she uses examples from her own practice to illustrate the points of the study.


Study Implicates Genetics and Family Dynamics in ADHD
by Claudia Gold

Trying to understand and then explain the complex interaction between environmental influences and gene expression is a challenging task. An important study published in the April issue of Behavioral and Brain Functions inspired me to give it a try. I start with the actual quote from the study and then attempt to explain it in my own words.
To date, studies have mostly focused on the effects of genetic and environmental influences on ADHD separately. Our work examines the interaction between a specific gene variant and a family environmental risk factor in order to determine their roles in the development of ADHD via behavioral and emotional dysregulation in children.

When ADHD is conceptualized as emanating from the development of emotional and behavioral regulation, specific genetic and family environmental factors are likely to jointly influence ADHD outcomes in particular ways. The present report capitalized on the potential to investigate an important genetic marker for liability to emotional and behavioral dysregulation (5HTTLPR), along with a particularly salient marker of environmental risk -children’s appraisals of blame in relation to inter-parental conflict.
What this study shows is that a person might have a gene for a serotonin metabolism, known as 5HHTLPR, that puts them at risk for ADHD. But if that person lives in a home filled with conflict, they are more likely to actually have ADHD. Put in a more positive way, just because you have the gene, it doesn't mean you will have the disorder. This study raises the question of whether addressing the environmental risk may protect a person from the genetic risk.

It brought to mind a story of a little boy named Adam who I took care of, a story that haunts me to this day. His mother and father came to see me when he was four years old. He had been in preschool for two months. Already the teachers were encouraging his parents to have him evaluated for ADHD and consider medication.

His parents presented him as a very bright loving child who had a very high energy level. At home, everything was "fine." They had no problems at all with him until he entered school. There he would become overstimulated, particularly when at lunch or other less structured activities. He had a very hard time sitting still and, most problematic for the teachers, he would become impulsive and hit other children. It seemed to both his parents and the teachers that he did not intend to hurt the other children, but that he simply could not control himself.

His father recalled having similar difficulties as a child, but he had outgrown them. Other family members had similar qualities. Both parents seemed to be working well to help him manage his particular challenges. When I met Adam the week after I met with his parents, he was indeed a very bright and engaging little boy. He sat on the floor with me and played a game meant for much older children.

I shared with his parents my impression that likely on a genetic basis he had a tendency for high activity level, and the structured setting of school, which was so new to him, was especially challenging. We discussed some strategies for helping him manage his difficulties, and planned a follow up visit in a month.

A month later they called to say that things were going well and cancelled their appointment. Over the next year Mom called me several times and scheduled appointments, each time cancelling them. She would say that the school wanted him on medication, and she really didn't want to go that route. Then, a month or so into kindergarten, things were not going well. As it had been so long since I had seen them, I asked Mom and Dad to come alone to fill me in.

After about ten minutes of description of Adam's problem behavior, his parents, who were not married, let me know that they were no longer living together. I asked if there had been trouble in the relationship when I saw them the previous year. Reluctantly they acknowledged that "we have never really been together."

Soon I was listening to a barrage of ferocious attacks upon each other. Mom accused Dad of being inept and unavailable. Dad said that Mom simply wanted to drug her son into submission. I sat quietly on my seat as the conflict escalated, feeling increasingly alarmed. Finally I interrupted and asked them if this kind of conflict I was observing was typical, and if so, what that might be like for Adam.

The viciousness was immediately was diverted to me. They were both furious. "What does that have to do with anything? We're not here to talk about us. We just want your advice about how to manage Adam's behavior!"

I spent the rest of the visit trying to turn things around so that they felt I was working with them, not against them. I do not think I was successful. In addition to discussion what to do about Adam's behavior, I suggested that they all go for therapy to address the ongoing family conflict. They left angry and disappointed. I felt terrible. How could I have missed this?

Reading this study makes me wonder, if I could have told them that there was scientific evidence demonstrating that family conflict made a person at risk for ADHD more likely to develop the disorder, would they have been more honest with me? Would them have been more motivated to deal with the problems in their relationship?

I have great admiration for the scientists who are trying to unravel the complex interactions between genes and environment. I hope that parents will draw hope and inspiration from this work. Just because there is a "family history" of a disorder, a genetic risk, does not mean a child's fate is sealed.

Monday, April 26, 2010

Great New Resource for Parents: Mind in the Making

If you had to name 7 essential skills that you wanted to instill in your child that would benefit them throughout their life, what would be on that list? I hadn't really thought of this until I recently ran across a new book that's just been released called "Mind in the Making: Seven Essential Life Skills Every Child Needs." Here are the 7 skills discussed in the book:


1. Focus and Self Control – children need this skill in order to achieve their goals especially in a world that is filled with distractions and information overload.

2. Perspective Taking – children who can figure out what others feel and think are less likely to get involved in conflicts.

3. Communicating – children need to be able to determine what they want to communicate and how. This is the skill teachers and employers feel is most lacking today.

4. Making Connections – children who can make unusual connections are more creative and can go beyond knowing information to using information well.

5. Critical Thinking – children need to be able to search for reliable knowledge to guide their beliefs, decisions, and actions.

6. Taking on Challenges – children who can take on challenges instead of avoiding or simply coping with them will do better in school and in life.

7. Self-Directed Engaged Learning – lifelong learners can change as the world changes in order to reach their full potential.

The author, Ellen Galinsky, is a well-respected researcher in family and work issues. Although I haven't read the book yet, it sounds fascinating. She has brought together the work of some of the best child development researchers in the field to compile a "handbook" of sorts for parents. This book (much like the goal of this blog) is designed to take some of the best child development research and distill it down into a usable format for parents.

I recently heard a podcast with the author and one of the things she mentioned was how she noticed while interviewing children that many seem to have lost that spark of the desire to learn that all children are born with. I could really relate to this as I remember seeing this also while visiting schools as part of a previous job. This is sad because any of us who have very young children know that they are naturally curious and want to learn anything they can. Through Mind in the Making, Galinsky hopes to give parents concrete ideas for helping their kids keep that spark of learning throughout their entire life. This skill, along with the others outlined in the book, are helpful not only for kids' school experience but for their career and personal lives.

Along with the book, Mind in the Making will also have online videos, a vook (video book) and learning modules available for teachers and parents. What a great set of resources!

Monday, April 19, 2010

An Article by Dr. Charlotte Reznick



In conjunction with yesterday's book review, I thought I would post an article by Dr. Reznick that gives a great example of her approach to working with children. If you find this helpful, check out her new book The Power of Your Child's Imagination.

Using Imagery to Create a Soothing Blanket of Sleep by Charlotte Reznick, PhD

It's the end of the day. You're tired. You've worked hard. The children have finally gone to bed. You're looking forward to some peace and quiet by yourself. All of a sudden you hear the cries of your normally loving youngster: "I can't sleep!" Or, your teen charges into the room and insists that they can't fall asleep because they're worrying about an exam the next day - a recent argument with their best friend - or a problem with their teacher. Wouldn't you like them to learn a technique to help let go of worries and tensions of the day and fall asleep peacefully and easily?

Guided imagery has been an especially effective tool in alleviating many kinds of sleep disturbances. When children and adolescents have difficulty sleeping at night, imagery can offer a soothing and comforting way to drift off into dreams. Children discover their own solutions by using tools such as meeting a wise 'animal' friend for advice or receiving a special gift to help fall asleep.

For example, one 11 year old girl was afraid to sleep alone in the aftermath of the recent L.A. earthquake. (Gail* had been sleeping in her parents room since the quake.) We went on an underwater voyage to explore her feelings and she was met by a wise mermaid who had several messages for her: "You are safe"; "You are just as safe in your room as in your parents'"; "Nothing can hurt you"; and "You can be calm." These internal messages were much more powerful than if she heard the same advice from her parent or therapist. The mermaid promised to watch over and protect her. After this session Gail began to sleep in her own room.

Gail then developed a fear that someone "bad" was going to come into her room if she slept alone; however, she was able to go "inside" and ask what could protect her if she slept in her own room. Gail imaged a "magic purple light" around her door that would keep out any harmful or scary people and only allow in friendly and helpful ones. Sleeping alone then became much easier for her.

You may choose to consider some of these techniques and adapt them to your children's personal needs. The following "guided" imagery is very effective for deep sleep. The adolescent that this particular imagery was developed for had difficulty falling and staying asleep because of ongoing stresses in her life. She found that listening to this imagery on tape each night helped tremendously. You will notice the images are simple and repetitive. It is helpful to use a very, very slow voice with relaxing, soft music in the background. You may choose to create a tape for your children or have them make one in their own voice.

“A Blanket of Sleep”
We're going to take some time now for you to relax ... and go very, very deep inside. To a place of peace ... of quiet ... and of sleep. Be aware that with each breath you take your breathing gets deeper and deeper. And your body gets more and more relaxed. Imagine yourself lying down in a wonderful comfortable bed. Perhaps it's like a fluffy white cloud that you can sink into. And with each breath your body sinks deeper ... and deeper into this soft fluffy white cloud.

With each breath you bring in a beautiful golden white light to help relax and put yourself to sleep. This golden white light washes over your body ... melts through the top of your head ... washes over your eyes ... down your cheeks ... your throat. Relaxing ... going into a deep sleep ... deeper and deeper as this beautiful golden white light washes over your body. And each breath you take brings you deeper and deeper into sleep ...relaxing.

And letting go ... letting go of the day ... of the week ... of anything that's being held ... As you breathe this light melts through your body ... through your neck ... into your shoulders ... down your arms ... relaxing ... deeper and deeper ... into your chest ... around your heart. Your heart opens and accepts the healing light ... releasing ... breathing deeper and deeper. Going deeper into your sleep. Easily breathing into your belly ... allowing this golden white light to blanket you. A blanket of sleep. as it goes down into your legs ... into your feet ...

A blanket of sleep tucking you in ... taking you back to a time that you slept as soon as you touched the pillow. Going back into that deep sleep state. Going back to a time that was easy for you to sleep ... where you were comforted and safe. Perhaps it's a long, long time ago. But there is a time where you are peaceful ... and happy ... and you are sleeping easily. Giving you comfort knowing you are totally safe. As you go deeper and deeper into your sleep. Dreaming ... peaceful thoughts ... precious thoughts.

Allowing yourself to go deeper and deeper ... until there is a door in front of you. A door that leads you down ... into a deeper sleep. And there is a special person waiting for you at that door. A very wise and loving person. Who takes your hand and leads you to an even deeper sleep. Where you're comfortable and safe. And all the thoughts of the day are let go. And you're totally at peace ... in your sleep. Totally at peace and calm.

As you go deeper and deeper ... the blanket of sleep covers you. You're so comfortable you find yourself drifting into the dreams. Into the wonderful dreams ... drifting in the warm blanket. Going deeper and deeper, deeper and deeper... into your sleep ... easily. Colors are floating around you. And the smells of sleep and comfort. As you continue to go deeper and deeper into your sleep. Allowing yourself to drift easily. Surprising yourself at how easy it is to sleep. How wonderful. How much you deserve to sleep easily... peacefully... Releasing all the tightness in your body.

As you sleep ... allow your body to rest. Cherish your body. Take care of yourself. All is good ... as you sleep. ......... And each night you go to sleep it is easier and easier to fall asleep quickly. You have peaceful and restful nights ... as you deserve. As you accept that ... you sleep ... deeply.... ......

Although we have touched on only a few, there are numerous ways to use imagery with children in times of sleep disturbances as well as with other concerns. Guided and interactive imagery have been powerful and effective tools to help children re-develop and re-member their internal resources and strengths temporarily lost during times of stress. We are only limited by our own and out children's imagination. Their wisdom is within; we are merely guides for helping them shine their light.
*Name changed for confidentiality.
Originally published in: Awareness Magazine, November/December 1994

Dr. Charlotte Reznick has dedicated her life to helping children, adolescents, parents, and professionals. She is a nationally recognized child and educational Psychologist and Associate Clinical Professor of Psychology at UCLA. Upon earning her Ph.D. in Educational Psychology from the University of Southern California, she was honored with "Dissertation of the Year" for her work on the effects of parental divorce on adolescents. The Power of Your Child’s Imagination is a heart-felt guide that shows parents and professionals how to empower children with easy, effective, and creative skills for surviving – and thriving – in our stressful world. It’s an indispensable guide that provides nine simple tools to help kids access their natural strengths and resources. There’s a mini-primer for each Tool—a sample script, troubleshooting tips, and real-life examples of how it is used. The Tools are adaptable to all ages (even adults can use them), and their benefits accumulate over time.

Saturday, April 17, 2010

Celebrate Earth Day with Your Kids (plus a Giveaway!)

Earth Day is just about upon us and it made me think about how parents could use this day as an opportunity to help kids learn about the environment and conservation. Here are a few ideas I thought of for helping children understand more about the Earth and it's precious resources:


** Help children plant a flower, or better yet a vegetable plant. This is great because it helps kids understand that vegetables don't originally come from the grocery story but from the Earth.

** Teach children to conserve water and electricity whenever possible. Examples: turning off water when brushing teeth, turning off lights when leaving a room.

** Take kids on an outing to a local farm or orchard. Even if you live in an urban area, many times a farm or orchard is just a short drive outside the city.

** Even young kids can help sort items for recycling. Young children usually like sorting games and recycling can put their sorting skills to good use.

** Take your kids to visit a state or national park. While there, go for a nature hike and point out new animals, plants or insects that you find.

One of my favorite blog, Because Babies Grow Up, has some more wonderful ideas for helping your children understand Earth Day. Here are also some other great Earth Day tips and spring recipes.

*********GIVEAWAY***********

In honor of Earth Day, our regional grocery chain, H-E-B (yeah for Texas companies), has offered to give three lucky readers a reusable grocery tote. To enter, just leave a comment on this post mentioning ideas for helping kids celebrate Earth Day.

** For extra entries:
- Visit H-E-B's Earth Day site and post a comment mentioning one of the tips you find there

- Become a fan of The Thoughtful Parent on Facebook (and post a comment here telling me). If you are already a fan, post a comment saying so.

- Follow The Thoughtful Parent on Twitter (@thoughtparent) (and post a comment here telling me). If you're already a follower, post a comment saying so.

**Winner will be randomly chosen from all entries received by 8:00pm (CST) on Sunday April 25.**
(open to US residents only)


Thursday, April 15, 2010

Book Review: The Power of Your Child's Imagination

I recently had the opportunity to read a copy of The Power of Your Child's Imagination: How to Transform Stress and Anxiety into Joy and Success by Dr. Charlotte Reznick.When I first saw the title of the book, I thought, "what does imagination have to do with overcoming stress?" Upon reading the first few pages of the book, however, the connection became clear. Much of the reason why children (and adults for that matter) find certain things stressful is because of the way we think about events. How you perceive something relates to what emotions you have about it. So if you can figure out how to think about a situation differently, your emotions about it may change as well. Much research supports this idea and this is the approach Dr. Reznick takes in helping kids cope with stress. In the book, she focuses on helping kids from the inside out. That is, showing parents how to help their child learn tools to cope with stress and anxiety so that any behavioral or physical health issues they may be having will improve also. Here is one quote that I really like and I think captures the focus of the book,

"For a child to thrive in the world, he must thrive inside. We spend so much time on the externals--how children behave, how they handle their bodies and interact with others--that we rarely address the inside places where personality and imagination, mind and heart, reside."

Before reading this book, I hadn't really considered the stresses that children face in everyday life. Much like adults, children experience stress and anxiety over things like interaction with peers, family turmoil, or death of a loved one. Unlike adults, however, children do not have the life experience and emotional maturity to cope with it as well. In some cases, the stress may even exhibit itself in physical ways. Dr. Reznick cites that up to 30-40% of children experience pain at least once a week. This is largely issues such as stomachaches and headaches which are often stress-related. In the book, Dr. Reznick outlines 9 tools of imagination that parents can help children learn in order to cope better with stress, including:

- The Balloon Breath
- Discovering Your Special Place
- Meeting a Wise Animal Friend
- Encountering a Personal Wizard
- Receiving Gifts from Inner Guides
- Checking in with Heart and Belly
- Talking to Toes and Other Body Parts
- Using Color for Healing
- Tapping into Energy

These sound intriguing, right? Dr. Reznick describes each tool and offers concrete explains of how parents can help their child learn to use each strategy. One of the best aspects of the book is that Dr. Reznick provides examples from her own clinical experience of how children have used these tools to deal with a variety of stressful situations. She describes very hands-on examples of how parents can guide their children through these tools and offers troubleshooting tips if challenges arise.

After reading this book, I really felt like these were tools that both children and parents would find useful for dealing with stress. Parenting is stressful enough as it is, so we all need tools to help ourselves and our children cope with the challenges of life. Please check out this book and see for yourself. Here is more information about Dr. Reznick and her book:

Dr. Charlotte Reznick has dedicated her life to helping children, adolescents, parents, and professionals. She is a nationally recognized child and educational Psychologist and Associate Clinical Professor of Psychology at UCLA. Upon earning her Ph.D. in Educational Psychology from the University of Southern California, she was honored with "Dissertation of the Year" for her work on the effects of parental divorce on adolescents.

The Power of Your Child’s Imagination is a heart-felt guide that shows parents and professionals how to empower children with easy, effective, and creative skills for surviving – and thriving – in our stressful world. It’s an indispensable guide that provides nine simple tools to help kids access their natural strengths and resources. There’s a mini-primer for each Tool—a sample script, troubleshooting tips, and real-life examples of how it is used. The Tools are adaptable to all ages (even adults can use them), and their benefits accumulate over time.

For more information, or to purchase a copy of The Power of Your Child's Imagination, please visit
http://www.imageryforkids.com/

To download a free e-book with more information on The Power of Your Child's Imagination: How to Transform Stress and Anxiety into Joy and Success and Dr Reznick , visit http://bookpromotionservices.com/reznick/. For a limited time Dr Reznick is offering a very special gift to each person who purchases a copy of her book, including over 80 free gifts, please visithttp://www.imageryforkids.com/book/ for all details.

Stay tuned tomorrow for some great resources (articles, interviews, etc.) from Dr. Reznick!

Friday, April 9, 2010

The Ultimate Blog Party!

I don't usually participate in too many blog parties, events, etc. but 5 Minutes for Mom's Ultimate Blog Party is an exception. This is the blog party to end all blog parties. I have found many great blogs and bloggers by participating in this event. Join in the fun!

Ultimate Blog Party 2010

By the way, did I mention they have prizes. Personally, I would love to win the following:

- A $150 shopping spree at A Rocking Horse to Love (after all I do have a 9 month old who I'm sure would LOVE a rocking horse)

-A $20 Amazon gift certificate provided by For Such a Time as This (always useful for any number of things)

- A $200 Apple gift certificate provided by CmomGo (how cool is the iPhone)

Of course I would love just about any of the cool prizes offered this year. Check out the party for yourself and find some new blogs to read.

Thursday, April 8, 2010

New Survey Results on Parenting Infants and Toddlers

The organization Zero to Three just released results from it's latest survey of parents. This is a wonderful large-scale survey of over 1,600 parents of children age birth to 3 years. The goal of the study was to find out what challenges parents today face, what influences their parenting, and what possible gaps in information exist in their knowledge of child development. Being the geek that I am, I find these types of surveys interesting and insightful. It's great to have sort of a national "picture" of what's going on with parenting today. Here are some of the most interesting findings:


--The vast majority of parents (70-90%) understand the importance of activities like reading, talking, and singing for babies and young children's brain development

--Fewer parents (less than half) understand when babies start to experience emotions and how parents' emotions can affect them
-for example, most babies are able to experience emotions such as fear and sadness around 6 months but most parents (70%) thought this occurred later
-most babies can also sense emotions in parents (like anger or sadness) around 6 months but 65% of parents thought this occurred later

--Quite a few parents (about 20%) thought that a child can control their emotions (e.g., not have a tantrum when frustrated) by age 2.
-most children do not have this ability until closer to 3-5 years of age

I found these particular findings interesting because it seems that we, as a country, are good about educating parents on the educational or intellectual development of children, but maybe less effective in educating parents on the social and emotional development of children. Most people know it's good to read to their children and there are all sorts of educational toys on the market. I think it's easier to forget about the emotions of babies and young children. Since they cannot express their emotions verbally yet, I think sometimes we forget they aren't just little adults but they have a lot of emotion they don't have the ability to handle quite yet. If nothing else, I think studies like these help us remember to keep realistic expectations regarding what very young children can do and what's going on in those little brains of theirs.

There are also some interesting findings about how family members and faith traditions influence parenting, as well as how the economic downturn has affected parents. The full findings and reports can be found here. Thanks to Zero to Three for continuing to promote a broader understanding of child development and helping us all be better parents.

 
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